Tuesday, July 13, 2010

when I left my boyfriend to be with my best friend.

my boyfriend was physically and emotionally abusive. he forces me to have an abortion to rid us of a "mistake" and he threw me into horrible depression.

my best friend, who had loved me through our entire friendship, was by my side through everything, and he showed me how I should be treated, and loved me through all of my faults. he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I will never forget when he looked into my eyes and told me he loved me :)

11 comments:

elizabeth said...

my defining moment is letting you back into my life. is forgiving you when you did the unforgivable, because i just love you so much.

Anonymous said...

My defining moment was when I saw you in the hospital, brain dead, from OD-ing. As I said my final good bye to you, I promised not to take life for granted and to love with entire heart like you did. As I held your hand and cried, it felt like 10 years of pain and frustration left my body. I walked out knowing you loved her but never would get the chance to have the life with her like you wanted. And even tho HE chose not to marry me 4 years ago, I knew I couldn't close myself to the world any longer...and the one man that never left my side was the person I was truly meant to love for the rest of my days...

Dakini Verona said...

It was the summer of 1973. I was pregnant and living in Berkeley. I had been a runaway hippie and was trying to find my way off of the streets.

We were sitting in the front room when the door of the house was suddenly kicked in. Several men stood there with shotguns and demanded drugs and money. My friends (the drug dealers) refused.

Without further commentary, the guns were aimed at me.. the pregnant girl.

My memory is a bit faded from that point forward. No guns were fired and I survived that incident fully intact.

I packed my few belongings and left that night, never looking back.

I left the streets for good that day.

(I have a blog about my life, if you are interested dakiniveraona.blogspot.com)

Thanks for letting me share!

Casandra said...

My defining moment was when I was watching that video that led me to you. Now I'm yours and I will never leave you.

Anonymous said...

What do you mean?

A Bird said...

My defining moment "I love that saying" was lastyear around May, I met my husband when I was 13 and its the same story of married young had babies young, We had 3 boys and was with each other for 11 years, over half my life. I stayed home while he was in the Army and he was all work no family, he was always to busy or to tried. I always thought that when you get married you stay through everything, bad or good and I had everything was very well taken care off, So that made it very hard on me wanting to leave with no schooling and being a wife my whole life. Well the last 2 years of our life was me begging and crying for him to just show up and be my husband and a dad to our 3 great kids, Once i knew that would never happend I ask if we could take the boys to Disney World, while we were there I loved every min of it, I started thinking I could stay with this heartless man. Then the last day we were sitting on the beach watching our kids play in the sand and he started pouring his heart out telling me everything that he wanted to say in 11 years, and all of this coming from a man that never told me anything, was crying. As I sat there looking at him all I kept thinking was, why didnt you tell me this years ago? and that now I didnt care that it was to late. So that day I knew that I could leave knowing that I wasnt in love with him. And that was what I needed to know. Now I have a great man that tells me everyday that im beautiful.

Lisa said...

My defining moment was when I was diagnosed with cancer, and for 2 reasons. During chemo, I knew who was truly important by who kept in contact with me & who came thru with offers to help. Thanks to those kind people. To the "family" who was nowhere to be found then, Karma will find you eventually. My second defining moment was recieving the news that the cancer was gone. My entire perspective on life has changed. I am finally truly happier! Life is short, folks. Please love each other & treat each other with absolute love & respect. Even to those who don't return the favor. God & Karma will take care of all of us!

Anonymous said...

My greatest regret is not having the strength and courage to end a relationship that led to pregnancy,and a teen marriage that was horrible for ten years. That huge mistake completely set my life on a track that would be very hard and lead to many more mistakes through life. It also led to three children that I was in no way ready to parent.

JourneyWriter said...

My defining moment was not killing myself at 13 and getting to see all that I could have missed out on. I am 18 now.

Anonymous said...

My defining moment happened after years of going in and out of hospitals, seeing multiple doctors, and taking many medications. It came after years of trying to kill myself, and struggling with self-harm. It was the moment that I realized, that no matter how many people want or try to help, I had to do it on my own. I had to save myself... and I did. Now, a couple of years later, I'm the happiest I've ever been. And I'm even engaged! Because I learned that in order to love anyone else, I had to love myself first.

Anonymous said...

One defining moment in my life happend 11 yrs ago. I sat in an airport bar. Going through many emotions. Hurt (from the death of my grandmother), self dissapointment (from not doing something the right way), lost (not knowing who I am or what I wanted in life). There was a young businessman in suit a couple stools down from me. Before he left he handed me a folded napkin. Inside were the kindest words. He wrote that he hoped his kind words could soothe whatever made such a beautiful person so sad. That whatever it was would pass. That things would be different in two yrs time (with luck it would be better). He signed it" stranger from Phoenix AZ". In my life there wasn't one person who noticed my hurt that seemed so obvious to a stranger. A stranger took the time to notice and reach out to me. He seemed to know exactly what to say to me to make me feel ok. I've held onto his words of inspiration all this time. If he only knew today I still read those words when I need someone to understand while those around me don't seem to. Thank you stranger from Phoenix Az!